I am so pleased to read this "Don't rush into marriage" by Wanita MCA chief Datuk Dr Ng Yen Yen.
There's always a pros and cons on the subject above. Especially when you're young, you can bear child easily, and by the time you're fifty years old, the children are all grown up, and less responsibilities in terms of looking after them, and so on.
If you married old, then kids are small, and your age is escalating and responsibilities become heavy too.
But what I believe, if a couple married too young, you have not really explore the outside world and not even know what is the life time commitment that you're going to face? Married young tend to be facing lots of temptations on marital affairs. Well, I may be wrong, but majority are seeing the trend of single parent increasing.
And, it ain't easy to cope with a child or children if you're single. The stress level that you're facing and tireness that you're getting, it will drive anyone crazy.
I may be wrong... however, all the above are all personal point of view....
blueks
13 years ago
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well, I got married at 24+. Now, I'm 32+, and I am always living happily with my wife and a kid. I also appreciate the value of a family and remember this is the decision I have made based on the wonderful moments my wife has given to me. This is a great principle I am always practising.
Hi Wilson, am glad that you treasure ad value the wonderful moments that your wife has given. There are many men out there, are tired of their wife after 5 years...
Do you think these men will have the same thought as you?
They will tell you, I will still go back to my wife... am just having a kick that's all??
I always remember a very unforgetable moment where my wife has rushed and fought her best to get a migraine medicine for me when my head was damm pain and I felt like going to die. It was happenning in year 1997. At that time, we were still 'pak tor.'
Well, I would say that many did not take a step back to look at why they had up the decision to marry. Good look and young age is attractive, but husband and wife live together for whole life. Wife gets older, same to the husband. Yes, I do get older too.
Other than marriage or so-called family, friendships are also important. The world is changing, it is no longer like you are expecting your kids to take care of you when you both are old one day. Other than you and your spouse, reliable and trustable friendships are something we have to work out. But, be careful, friendships must be managed properly.
Hi Wilson, happy to see ya respond to my post/comment.
Nowadays the marriage 'management' is different from those days. I agreed with what you've said. Unfortunately there are many out there, yet to understand the meaning of RESPECT in marriage! There are still many chauvinistic men out there!!!! Do you think these men understand?
It is a matter of how a person manage a relationship, example like friedship where Wilson mention "friendships must be managed properly." so always tell yourself friend is someone who help each other but not taking the advantage of friendship asking them to do anythings that you WANT them to do for you, a favour is always come with "I'm asking for your help, but you have an option to help me or not" that is what you mean by asking for favour from your friend. So from your previous subject on "Am mad that someone being rude ..." how rude that person is, I don't know. but I can see that if you are working in MNC like me, drawing a clear line on your role is sometimes not what we wanted to, but this is because your boss know that you can't handle too many things at once, that's why they come out with a R&R to draw the line. I can see that your colleagues already giving you a clear answer and favour/help on your request where he/she can't do you the favour but still helping you by directing you to the right person. So why can't you look for the correct person for the answer personaly? Are you asking for your friend/colleague to ask the correct person for the answer you are looking for and get back to you? Don't you think your request is a bit too much to asking he/she to do so for you as a favour for you? Do you think your friend are free at that time to do you that favour where he/she already give you a helping hand by giving you a correct person to refer to? or you are being using FRIENDSHIP to ask for the so call FAVOUR where your favour is stand for "I am your friend so now I ask for help, you must do that for me, you have no choice"?
Same to how you manage a relationship between you and your husband/wife. Age of married is not a matter, it is a matter on how you handle a relationship. 30+ years old can still have a childish attitude to manage things. So is age causing those things to happened? NO
marriage is just another form of management. agreed with Elf that age is not the main cause. however, basically many married just for the sake as give birth to a child, etc, and have forgotten about managing the different lifestyles of every family member, include in-laws..... Manage, doesn't mean command or make it to work, but a way of dealing regardless win or lose. Winning brings happiness, while losing brings happiness too as we are making another party happy... We should feel happy for everyone... Cheers !
(apology for broken english here)
is this getting too fire up?
let's say the person is actually sitting right in front of the manager's cubicle. what the person could do is to stand up and take a look.
i agreed everything is manageable... includes friendship and marriage.
drawing a line isn't the way to work nowadays eventhough you're working in a MNC.
people are looking at teamwork, partnership in an organization, but not drawing a line.
From the date you post that blog, it was 9 Aug, things had happened about 5 days ago, but looks like you are still very mad with that person, believe that both of you are not talking to each other anymore. Sometimes we have to ask ourself, it that worth for us to get mad with other people's mistake (if you think you are right and he/she is wrong)? I remember one of my friend send me a mail with a message someting sounds like "don't punish yourself with other's mistake". One question, is that person still enjoying his/her working life after that day u said she is "rude to you"? If the answer is YES, then why you still mad with the person? punishing yourself in this way? + a friends is better then + an enemy.
That person is sitting right in front of the manager's cubicle, so doesn't mean that he/she know where is the manager. He can be on leave, on MC, on Business Trip, going for meeting and ... so not surprise that he/she answer you as "I don't know" with an additional help by directing you to ask the right person. To me she is right. Sometimes we have to think back, when people ask for my help, how I answer them, especially when I am busy. What I can said is - most of the human are very forgetfull, they can only remember what bad things you had done to hurt him/her, and at the same times forget all the past wonderful and helping hand that this person has been given to you.
Be Happy and Enjoy your life starting from :)
Hello Elf, the post was posted in 9 Aug, and it was 5 days ago as you said it's already over 5 days. Was I in talking terms with the mentioned, honestly it's not important.
1 - it could be the other party is busy. No time to interact with each other.
2 - i was busy, wasn't in the right mind frame to blog another post, therefore, it was quiet for 5 ddays.
3 - i have nothing to come in mind to blog about, thus, it's been silent.
4 - pay more attention on the other blog of mine instead of this due to less traffics and comments.
anyway, the mentioned party does aware of the manager's where about, whether the manager is away on biz or on vacation.
it was just a small favour to ask is the person around, if not, that's ok.
i am that kind of person that making friends with sincererity and truthful heart. and DO NOT say NO to anyone that request for favour.
this is what I call 'manage' friendship & marriage & even family.
like you said ... enjoy my life and be happy from where it fron. :)
am taking this the point of making a brand new friend, and that's you, elf!!
and of course, never forget wilson that leaving me 2 comments as well.
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