Sunday, January 27, 2008

External Marital Affair II

I am sad, I am upset, I am down to receive a news of somebody is committing adultery since few years ago.
He’s been seeing this divorced woman for many years and this woman was divorced 2 years ago. Was it because of his involvement or what?
Nobody knows only the involve party.
It hurts the wife so much so that the wife is asking for divorce now.
What about the kids?
The kids are still small…. Yet, why would this thing happen around CNY corner?
The daughter was about to sit for her major exams this year… why can’t man just use his HEAD to think before he made such mistakes?

How would you deal with this matter when your other half admitted the fact that he had committed adultery and he’s in love with the woman that he’s still seeing? Yet, he doesn’t want to divorce?

Can you leave this and live your own life?
If the wife is an ordinary housewife, not even financial independent. Can she go thru such hurdle herself?

Truly understand divorce rate is increasing each year, and many women would ask for divorce if they found their man is cheating on them. But if this happens so sudden to you, can anyone of us handle it in a proper manner or will you jumping ups and downs?

Some will advise you to sit back and laugh at his matter, but I can tell not many can handle this matter “professionally”. Whoever involves in this matter, will start to think what have I done wrong? Do I deserve all these cheatings from my other half?

Wednesday, January 23, 2008

External Marital Affair

If one of these days, you got to know your husband is unfaithful to you, what would you do?
Would you ask for divorce and fight for the kids’ custody?
Would you confront him and quarrel with him?
Would you stay silent and wait till he return home?
Would you do something to make yourself more attractive and make him got attracted to you?
Would you think over what has triggered this marriage that causes him having an external marital affair?

I believe many women out there will think it over and over again, what have I done wrong that my man is straying outside of this home, right?

And, many would think I've sacrificed a lot for the man, for the family, and why is he betraying me?

We have shared so much laughter, so much happiness and tears together, not even that able to gain you back from the outside attractive world?

Or is it because other women outside will give you the pride and ego that every men needed?

I bet many of us come across many famous figures in town do have 2 wives, some of them could actually stay together for many years.
Was this fated? Or barely the man controls it all?

Some women are really lucky, the man that they married a faithful and truthful. Some are unlucky….

But, I believe a marriage built by both husband and wife, in any circumstances; husband and wife should fight against all odds to salvage it instead of letting it die quietly.

Well, this is another 5 cents worth of thoughts of mine.

Tuesday, January 15, 2008

My apology

I know I've not been writing anything and nothing has actually spur up my mind and mood to write.
I hope my readers could understand and give me some time to ponder what to post about.

Lately heard a lot of external marital affairs. And, with this affairs, actually caused lots of families going thru a lot of unnecessary pressure and stress.

If you come across children that under going STPM, SPM, PMR, etc. Am sure the children will be heavily affected by this matter.

Person that involves in such affair, will he or she ever thought of the consequences that affecting the family, the spouse, the kids, etc? I bet they don't. I wonder how many of these people ever know once trust is damage is hard to build back again.

Piece of advice, think twice before anyone of you STRAY around. Think of your love ones... having this external marital affair will not improve husband and wife relationship, nor family relationship.

I am not either right or wrong, but, I think this worth a 5 cents worth of value.