What an Idol?

When I read the news about Andy Lau's long time girl friend Carol Chu moved out from the bungalow after the wedding plans called off.

I really wanted to hats of this Mr. Lau whom I find him a very irresponsible man in the century. Don't you think so?? A woman has been with you for a century long and has been quietly supporting him without standing in the lime light; yet, he doesn't care much or even give her a title of Mrs. so and so.

Then question lie here, what kind of man is this?
And, why would the fans blindly admiring him and so on??

Even Alan Tham also admitted that he has two wives, and even Jackie Chan is admitting Lim Fong Chiau is his legally married wife.

If a fan could crazily follow their idol like that and pressuring the idol for not getting married; think those fans can be neglected without giving a reason. Come on, that's people personal's life, isn't it?
Isn't it silly to call off the wedding due to media frenzies? Even so, so what?? Just sue them for infringe of privacy then.

I always believe there's always a way of getting rid of these media... if Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes could do it in Italy, then who is this Andy Lau??

Mother's Love (2)

母亲太伟大了，我想在关键时刻，每个母亲都会这样做的，把生的希望留给孩子。

抢救人员发现她的时候，她已经死了，是被垮塌下来的房子压死的，透过那一堆废墟的的间隙可以看到她死亡的姿势，双膝跪着，整个上身向前匍匐着，双手扶着地支撑着身体，有些象古人行跪拜礼，只是身体被压的变形了，看上去有些诡异。

救援人员从废墟的空隙伸手进去确认了她已经死亡，又在冲着废墟喊了几声，用撬棍在在砖头上敲了几下，里面没有任何回应。当人群走到下一个建筑物的时候，救援队长忽然往回跑，边跑变喊“快过来”。他又来到她的尸体前，费力的把手伸进女人的身子底下摸索，他摸了几下高声的喊“有人，有个孩子，还活着”。

经过一番努力，人们小心的把挡着她的废墟清理开，在她的身体下面躺着她的孩子，包在一个红色带黄花的小被子里，大概有3、4个月大，因为母亲身体庇护着，他毫发未伤，抱出来的时候，他还安静的睡着，他熟睡的脸让所有在场的人感到很温暖。随行的医生过来解开被子准备做些检查，发现有一部手机塞在被子里，医生下意识的看了下手机屏幕，发现屏幕上是一条已经写好的短信 “亲爱的宝贝，如果你能活着，一定要记住我爱你”，看惯了生离死别的医生却在这一刻落泪了，手机传递着，每个看到短信的人都落泪了。

This is one of the emails that I’ve received from friends, acquaintances, colleagues, and so on. And this is one of the emails that made me cry many many times regardless when I see this, and how many times I read it.

That statement has actually proofs a mother’s love to any children.

Don’t you agree??

You could see an expecting mother will do what she can when she’s expecting her baby. She will quit all the bad habits for the unborn child, a very good example some mothers will quit her day to day coffee, quit smoking, quit drinking ice water, have healthy food, etc.

Isn’t this is part of a mother’s love?

When her child is sick, what will a mother do? She will not be able to sleep but to make sure her child is fine at night, and fed the child medicine. Right?

Some mothers even do whatever she can to give their children in anything they want. Some cruel cases like buying drugs for the children, covering their children if their children conduct any killings, robberies, etc.

They are many types of mother out there… but a mother like this whom gave up her life and protect a 3 to 4 months old infant, honestly no one could beat this.
Being a mother not just give birth to the baby, but to also take care of them, guide them and give them anything. It’s a life responsibility for the mother.

When a child dies, the most heart ache would be the mother. Cuz, she carried the child for 9 months and it’s like her flesh and blood.

I guess nobody could understand how a mother feels except a mother.

Mother's Love

Since 21 March incident, I’ve not been working at night especially after a hectic working day. I’ve not been involving anything particularly stress and pressure.

A way it’s good for me, as I was under tremendous stress before therefore I was not able to conceive. Not because of infertility or something else.

Friends that around me had advised me to try again, and don’t look back. Just look forward and have a healthy baby.

I have been a coffee lover, chilli lover, and even ice lover… because I want a healthy baby and want a healthy pregnancy, I basically quit all these.

Is this what people called it a Mother’s Love?

Hurt

I’m so hurt
To think that you are lie to me
I’m hurt
Way down deep inside of me
You said your love was true
And we’ve never, never part
Now you want some one new
And it breaks my heart

I’m hurt
Much more than you ever know
I’m so hurt
Because I still love you so
But even though you hurt me
Like nobody else who ever do
I will never ever hurt you

I’m so hurt
Much more than you ever know
I’m so hurt
Because I still love you so
But even though you hurt me
Like nobody else who ever do
I will never ever hurt you

It was my first time to hear this song, and it was sung by Bobby Vinton. If you are born in the 50s or the 60s, you wouldn’t find Bobby Vinton a stranger too. He’s the person that sings Blue on Blue, Mr Lonely, Blue Velvet, I Love How You Love Me, etc.

Why am I so into oldies? Perhaps it was influence by my aunts, uncle and parents. But don’t you realize these songs have their special meaning??

When I heard this, the lyrics sound so familiar… cuz, this happens in the real world of ours. We are hurt, because you want some one new and it breaks our hearts.

And this happens to my beloved aunt whom I’ve blogged about it before.

Apart from giving whatever support we could, what else could I do to help my aunt??

My supportive husband

I really do not know what to say… cuz, hubby suddenly reading those blogs and articles on miscarriages. He even told me that some women are even trying their luck before their 1st menstrual cycle. Some women are even pitiful, they had strokes yet they are positive to try on another time. Some women had many miscarriages before they could carry a normal one.

I know my sweet hubby is giving me all sorts of positive supports and give me the assurance that I could it like others. He just wants me to be brave and strong and face whatever ahead in us.

It’s sweet to have your other half to be with you and stand by you in any circumstances. Right?

I guess, without him, I will not be able to stand up and walk out from any dark corner. Though on and off the emotion is hard to control, but with this man with me, I guess I would be better each day.

My Husband

If I could give a sweetheart award to my beloved husband, think I’ll certainly do it without second thought.

This man has been with me whenever am down with depression, or when am down with heavy work pressure, or even down with such grief.

Before the incident, he was helping me to run all the house chores, and all the errands that needed to do. I was overly pampered by his attention, his loves, his cares.

Whenever he sees me under tremendous working stress, he’ll give me surprises like taking me for a short trip. Pangkor Laut Resort was one the surprises that he gave me.

I know there are no words could describe how much I appreciate his love, his care, his everything…. despite bearing his child and giving all I could give. With the current grief, I know I should not neglect my husband. Yet, he’s taking days off just to be with me and just to company me even I don’t speak a word for a day.

He is certainly a man that I would want to tell him I love him forever and ever!

It was disheartening when I see him crying quietly. Though I know he acted brave and calm in front of me, cuz, he didn’t want to let me down. What could I do, I only know how to cry…

He’s helpless when I hold him tight and cry, he could never know what to do but to hug me tight. Things do not happen just for once, but many times, he held me tight enough to let me feel I am important to him.

Now that I have to undergo a proper confinement treatment though it’s not a full term delivery, he’s there to undergo such treatment with me. He’ll switch off the aircond and bear all the heat together with me. Not even a single complaint from him, … he truly understand how I feel.

I know I am spoilt by him… I know that. With his loves and strength, I could never ever survive from this pain without my husband, my lawful wedded husband.

I love you, dear!

男人 MAN!

當一個男人變起心來就翻轉豬肚就是屎!
正如肥姐沈殿霞的前夫鄭少秋在欣宜幾個月大的時候, 還不是為了官晶華離開了肥姐。現在人都已經死了, 他也不送肥姐最後一程。表面上的理由是欣宜不想她的父親操勞過度。可是對我們局外人來說, 他實在無情。

男人真的那麼多心嗎? 自古以來男人就被形容是無情和負心的人。如果不是我自己親眼看到自己尊重的長輩也如此, 我想這世界上的男人也可算是百分之一百的好男人。

自從他的妻子揭發他的婚外情之後, 他盡然否認自己過錯, 反過來說是他的妻子並沒有盡妻子的責任。如果妻子的責任是提供性服務而不是為了那個家, 我想這女人要不要也沒什麼重要。就算自己的妻子沒有盡妻子的責任也不至於做丈夫的可以在外頭亂搞一團糟的權力。

做一個男人, 即承認自己犯了錯誤, 也必須覺悟和拯救自己的婚姻而不是滔滔不絕地談。這所謂的長輩甚至可以胡說八道, 也搞到家人和親戚一團糟。他盡然說是他妻子給他的壓力而搞到他自己承認這一切。他也說過, “如果Lingam 可以否認這一切, 他也可以。”

請問各位讀者可有見過這樣胡扯的男人嗎?

他也無意於悔改, 這也造成兒女們各各有神經衰弱症。他也好像不打算終止那一份情。是問這男人還是男人嗎?

男人就是頂不住那外面的誘惑, 而造成家庭破裂。自己不承認自己的過失反而責備和譴責妻子沒盡責任。因為這個緣故也造成許多的單身女性對婚姻有恐懼感。

如今我對這所謂的長輩也完完全全的沒有了那敬意。至少陳冠希有誠意嘗試對社會作個道歉, 至以這所謂的長輩, 只懂得說得天花亂墜的謊話。我真的好想看這所謂的長輩以後的日子如何過? 難道這所謂的長輩完全沒有受到良心責備嗎?

我只能奉勸各位女性不要因為一個胡扯的男人而尋找短見。反而應接受命運注定而為自己將來奮鬥。

您們說對嗎?

External Marital Affair II

I am sad, I am upset, I am down to receive a news of somebody is committing adultery since few years ago.
He’s been seeing this divorced woman for many years and this woman was divorced 2 years ago. Was it because of his involvement or what?
Nobody knows only the involve party.
It hurts the wife so much so that the wife is asking for divorce now.
What about the kids?
The kids are still small…. Yet, why would this thing happen around CNY corner?
The daughter was about to sit for her major exams this year… why can’t man just use his HEAD to think before he made such mistakes?

How would you deal with this matter when your other half admitted the fact that he had committed adultery and he’s in love with the woman that he’s still seeing? Yet, he doesn’t want to divorce?

Can you leave this and live your own life?
If the wife is an ordinary housewife, not even financial independent. Can she go thru such hurdle herself?

Truly understand divorce rate is increasing each year, and many women would ask for divorce if they found their man is cheating on them. But if this happens so sudden to you, can anyone of us handle it in a proper manner or will you jumping ups and downs?

Some will advise you to sit back and laugh at his matter, but I can tell not many can handle this matter “professionally”. Whoever involves in this matter, will start to think what have I done wrong? Do I deserve all these cheatings from my other half?

夫妻之道

倘若兩夫妻完全沒有溝通的話, 感情就會轉淡, 結果自然而然就會離婚收場。如果雇主與職員沒有溝通的話, 亦同樣會有許多問題出現, 比如雇主與職員關係不和。所以人與人之間必須有些溝通和信任。

為什麼世上無數的男人會有情婦或有許多女朋友, 還是男人比較多情？自古以來, 女人多少比男人苦命了一點。所以也同樣造成這世界上女人要為自己的前途而奮鬥。也因此許多女性被例為強人, 例如緬甸的翁山蘇姬, 香港的陳方安生, 巴基斯坦的貝娜齊爾布托, 還有其他。

如果, 雙方可以維持信任, 互讓了解, 互相鼓舞, 互相支持, 相信每一對情侶或夫妻都可以白頭皆老。其實婚姻是神聖的, 真正志同道合的夫妻在世界上都會白頭皆老; 而且, 這是一種幸福。

永恒不朽的愛情, 穩定的關係, 這些都是每一對夫妻的必定須要的規則。試問若每對情侶或夫妻可以有牢固的感情基础, 有强烈的家庭責任心。相信分居和離婚率都會減少。

一辈子有一个伴是一件幸福的事情, 就如古人所說的 “死生契闊, 與子相悦; 執子之手, 與子皆老”。

如今太多情侶為了一刹那的歡樂或刺激而忽略了真正婚姻觀念。這也造成許多年輕這一代的離婚率逐漸提高。為什麼我說溝通是重要呢？如果夫妻或情侶之間沒有溝通的話, 也沒有互相支持以及互信任對方, 那麼結婚來幹嗎？

夫妻之間不但要互相信任對方也要互相尊重對方。這才是真正愛和婚姻的真締。

What loves mean to you???

What loves mean to you???

There are many songs had written about love, regardless parents love, couples love, friendship love, god’s love, … everything, huh?

How was a relationship being build? Of course, based on love, isn’t it? If not, how would you build it? If not, you wouldn’t marry the man or the woman to be your lawful wedding spouse right?

After years of marriage, how do you maintain the relationship between husband and wife? The spark isn’ t there anymore, but how do you maintain that?

It’s the responsibilities counts for that moment, the love that built the foundation, … agreed?

Before you build a house, you must build a strong ground, a strong foundation, then after you will put on bricks, things like that… and maintain it thru out the days and years… that processes is similar to how you build a relationship or even a marriage.

Nowadays we see a lot of couple filing for divorce, do they ever consult each other what causes them to go into that path??

Feel free to comment….

Don’t rush into marriage

I am so pleased to read this "Don't rush into marriage" by Wanita MCA chief Datuk Dr Ng Yen Yen.

There's always a pros and cons on the subject above. Especially when you're young, you can bear child easily, and by the time you're fifty years old, the children are all grown up, and less responsibilities in terms of looking after them, and so on.

If you married old, then kids are small, and your age is escalating and responsibilities become heavy too.

But what I believe, if a couple married too young, you have not really explore the outside world and not even know what is the life time commitment that you're going to face? Married young tend to be facing lots of temptations on marital affairs. Well, I may be wrong, but majority are seeing the trend of single parent increasing.

And, it ain't easy to cope with a child or children if you're single. The stress level that you're facing and tireness that you're getting, it will drive anyone crazy.

I may be wrong... however, all the above are all personal point of view....

How would you react when you hear someone announce that they are getting married

How would you react when someone announce that they are getting married?

If it is your close friend, you will definitely congratulate them and give them all the best wishes and blessings.
If it is your acquaintance, you will still congratulate them but with half hearted.

It's always a different between that... and it's very much depend on what position are you in, right?

A friend of mine told me that she's planning to get married this year end. I was happy for her and I was wondering also, first few years of marriage, you'll be having good time, the honeymoon period things like that... what about after married for few years??

Will you all quarrel over money, over in laws, over no time to spend together, etc?

When I first got married, I was kind of enjoying the honeymoon period, unfortunately the honeymoon period wasn't last long and more over due to working stress and that had lead into many arguments and quarrels.

If a couple regardless of married or not married, are not compromising or giving into another party, perhaps that will end up tragedy.

Don't you think so?

Anyway, back to my friend's wedding announcement. She was so happy and sweet over the proposal from her hubby to be, and kept the wedding ring picture in her MSN Messanger. And then, I was asking myself, ... have I ever put my hubby's picture in my wallet? Hmmm... not a single time....

Maybe... I said maybe, ... different age, different generation and different exposure.

If decent young lady first boyfriend that became the husband, honestly to me that has not been exposed enough to the outside world. Not that I encourage everyone to flirt around, but, still that is considering gaining experience, isn't it right?

hahahaha... having said that, every couple should learn how to understand each other needs, stand by each other, compromise as well.... that will definitely build a healthy marriage.

Love

When was the first time you fell in love?


How do you find yourself when you fell in love?


Was it amazing? Was it excited? Was it fun? Was it sad? Was it happy? Was it trilled? What was it the last time when you fell in love?

Was your first love became your belawful wedded spouse? Or, it was an unfortunate one it turn out to be another person?

Care to share and drop a few lines of your hidden happiness, hidden sorrows?

Chinese Women

Today's lunch a group of us, married and unmarried were talking about a man and a woman, a marriage and an affair. An affair which involves other countries' citizen.

Well, the well known China Chinese. There are many people nowadays have move over to China for work and for business, and many of them has decided to leave their family or even their girlfriend or boyfriend in their homeland.

The promises were given was, let me fight for our future and then move forward, we'll have better life. Well, the innocent one would believe, and answer yes, I'll be here to wait for you to come home.

The smart one will tell you off, sorry, I want to come along!

Just like the Hong Kong people said, "Pau Yee Lai" in Shenzhen which was so famous in the late 80's. Now that, many Malaysians are following their footsteps.

What we were chatting about was, the Chinese women are good in putting 'santan', 'lemak' the man and the men will feel flatten by their soft voices, the so called understanding, etc.

I wonder how many of them realize these are only the surface? What will come at the end of the day?? Some of them even know that the man will not fall into their trap, well, let's see how can he goes far?? Let's get him into the baby thingy... if a responsible man, he'll definately married me and I'll be definately getting his 'keh hwei' or cantonese said 'kar chan'.

Right??