This morning a very close friend of mine called me to let out her frustrations. When she poured out her frustrations, I realized, I truly understand how she felt and what she went thru was something that I’ve seen it from my own eyes before.
She was very worried her husband came home late as he has to host some of the counter part that came from other country. Knowing her husband, he’s very sociable, and also a drinker too. Of course, when comes to such situation, in any wives’ position, will be worrying like hell. Especially right now the society security is not getting better; you will hear some kind of Mat Rempit ramping here and there, even in petrol station conduct robberies.
If any men out there reading this post… please do consider yourself in your wife’s position; or rather put yourself in her shoe.
What if this happens to you, when you got to stay up late just to wait for her to return home after a drinking session with her colleagues/counter part/customers and so on. I believe you would be worrying like what a wife normal does.
Of course, and I know some wives could just go to bed without waiting for the husbands to return home after a heavy drink.
Or perhaps, I am that type of conservative woman like the olden days that wish to wait for hubby to return home after such session. At least, I know he’s safe and he’s home.
blueks
13 years ago
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Hi New Kid on the block, I read with interest your this posting and do appreciate your friend's anxiety, or even yours if the husband is late coming home.
But today almost everyone has a cell phone and I'm sure the anxiety is lessened somewhat.
But having experienced personally 30 years of business wheeling and dealing, night time entertainments, nonstop travelling, 3 weeks of the month staying in hotels...I will admit, it is tough on the wife's part.
No woman, no wife deserves that, believe you me.
My wife went thru that too.
In my case, before my wife could say she loves me and prepared to be my life partner, I laid all my cards on the table.
I told her I am reaching for the stars, to be somebody in life and that will mean my being away from home, from her... days, even weeks and nothing, nobody is going to stop me,
I told her that I have to entertain foreign clients and having dinners as well drinking till the wee hours.
(Any business man having business deals with Japanese, Korean and Chinese will know of their drinking prowess).
I never knew how to even drink a glass of beer one time, and had to learn...fast!
She accepted and told me to reach for the stars. And for 20 years she stood by me, with a smile, and always motivating and encouraging me...she trusted me fully, and I never misplaced that trust.
I did reached the stars so to speak...flying in a Corporate executive plane, 5 star hotels, and all what that came with it.
But never once did I come home drunk or gave her reasons to worry. Because she knew what I had or have to do to achieve my ambition. Prior to all that, before marriage, she already knew of my past, wine women and song...but will tell her friends, she won me away from the other girls.
One year after I arrived at the stars, I decided to give up everything, and I mean everything.
I apologised to her for neglecting her all the years, promised, swore to her only death will separate me from her again, we thus started life again, here.
And past 22 years, she sees me day and night, I stopped drinking completely and we are never seen anywhere without holding hands.
She is today, my girlfriend, my lover, my wife, my life partner.
When I proposed to her that one night in Penang, I gave her a bouquet of 12 Roses, but only 11 were real ones....one was made of silk.
I told her, I promised her, "I will love you till the last one dies". I have kept that promise.
Oh ya, she knows I enjoy teasing, joking with ladies. But same time she knows I will never cross that line, as I love her today like I just met her yesterday.
She tells her friends, 'the day Lee stops admiring, teasing women, that will be the day I get worried', ha ha.
To you and whoever reads this, I will say, have trust and faith in your husbands...and keep your cell phone batteries charged. My time cellphones unheard off too.
By the way, I did a blog posting almost similar to what you posted here, titled, "Lee, he seeing another woman", d/d 5/1/08. If free take a peek my archive.
Sorry take up so much space here, thank you, you keep well and have a nice day,....Lee.
HI Lee, Thanks for dropping by. But you never know some men will make use of this opportunity to drink as much as they can, without realizing they were actually drunk and taking advantage on people too.
And not many men like could do things like that...
But I bet your wife is a lucky woman.
wow Lee, i enjoy reading ur comments here.. i shld say Ur wife is lucky but U're even luckier to hv ur wife now..
envy envy!! too bad u're married.. or else i hope i'll b ur wife.. haha :P
Hi New Kid on the block, I agree with you fully re some men, for that matter, some women too, will over indulge in their drinking and get into problems.
I have seen many, both parties...one thing led to another, and thus marriages suffer or go on the rocks.
But it is none of my business what and how other men or women behave or carry themselves when involved in business entertainment...
But, when being married for a year or more, you or whoever will know your husband well, and this I believe, even though it may not be completely waterproof, give him, allow him that trust.
It is like giving trust to a 6 year old kid...
Trust, responsibility, faith and most of all, your love and understanding should see things go on the right side of the tracks.
Ahhhh, but if he or she takes a slight detour, sooner or later you will find out...then either throw a pail of cold water over him, a lecture or whatever, ha ha will be your wakeup call.
But trust me here....not all men, not many men will really fool around after marriage...knowing of your love for him.
I have met, known, dated exceptionally beautiful women, but never going overboard...as to me my wife is more beautiful.
Believe, trust in husbands or wives and things should see a marriage steady sailing.
Keep well, Lee.
Hi New Kid, tumpang some space here...
hello LiangMui, thank you for your warm thoughts...you made my day, *wink*.
You stay easy and hold that smile, best regards, Lee.
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