Are You A Great Listener

An interesting quiz to find out whether are you a good listener.

You Are a Great Listener

You are the perfect person to talk to. You are patient, empathetic, and encouraging. You provide subtle, but important, feedback. You let people say everything that needs to be said before you weigh in.

Are You a Good Listener?

Mother's Love (2)

母亲太伟大了，我想在关键时刻，每个母亲都会这样做的，把生的希望留给孩子。

抢救人员发现她的时候，她已经死了，是被垮塌下来的房子压死的，透过那一堆废墟的的间隙可以看到她死亡的姿势，双膝跪着，整个上身向前匍匐着，双手扶着地支撑着身体，有些象古人行跪拜礼，只是身体被压的变形了，看上去有些诡异。

救援人员从废墟的空隙伸手进去确认了她已经死亡，又在冲着废墟喊了几声，用撬棍在在砖头上敲了几下，里面没有任何回应。当人群走到下一个建筑物的时候，救援队长忽然往回跑，边跑变喊“快过来”。他又来到她的尸体前，费力的把手伸进女人的身子底下摸索，他摸了几下高声的喊“有人，有个孩子，还活着”。

经过一番努力，人们小心的把挡着她的废墟清理开，在她的身体下面躺着她的孩子，包在一个红色带黄花的小被子里，大概有3、4个月大，因为母亲身体庇护着，他毫发未伤，抱出来的时候，他还安静的睡着，他熟睡的脸让所有在场的人感到很温暖。随行的医生过来解开被子准备做些检查，发现有一部手机塞在被子里，医生下意识的看了下手机屏幕，发现屏幕上是一条已经写好的短信 “亲爱的宝贝，如果你能活着，一定要记住我爱你”，看惯了生离死别的医生却在这一刻落泪了，手机传递着，每个看到短信的人都落泪了。

This is one of the emails that I’ve received from friends, acquaintances, colleagues, and so on. And this is one of the emails that made me cry many many times regardless when I see this, and how many times I read it.

That statement has actually proofs a mother’s love to any children.

Don’t you agree??

You could see an expecting mother will do what she can when she’s expecting her baby. She will quit all the bad habits for the unborn child, a very good example some mothers will quit her day to day coffee, quit smoking, quit drinking ice water, have healthy food, etc.

Isn’t this is part of a mother’s love?

When her child is sick, what will a mother do? She will not be able to sleep but to make sure her child is fine at night, and fed the child medicine. Right?

Some mothers even do whatever she can to give their children in anything they want. Some cruel cases like buying drugs for the children, covering their children if their children conduct any killings, robberies, etc.

They are many types of mother out there… but a mother like this whom gave up her life and protect a 3 to 4 months old infant, honestly no one could beat this.
Being a mother not just give birth to the baby, but to also take care of them, guide them and give them anything. It’s a life responsibility for the mother.

When a child dies, the most heart ache would be the mother. Cuz, she carried the child for 9 months and it’s like her flesh and blood.

I guess nobody could understand how a mother feels except a mother.

What Your Fridge Says About You

This is an interesting quiz that I got it from Rainbow... check it out yourself if you have the time....

What Your Fridge Says About You

You don't need a lot of stuff to be happy. There isn't a greedy bone in your body. You tend to be a fairly thrifty person. You splurge occasionally, but you're mostly a saver. You are not adventurous at all. You don't like to be outside your comfort zone. You are responsible, together, and mature. You act like an adult, even when you don't feel like it. You are likely single - and spending many nights alone at home.

What Do the Contents of Your Refrigerator Say About You?

Encouragement

I miss my baby so much right now.
Just now went for out for lunch and I saw this shop full of babies’ dress, and shirts.
Suddenly I have the feeling of missing my baby so much. I dare not touch those dresses and shirts, and I dare not walk in there and take a look. Because I am so scared of remembering what I went thru.

I know Little Inbox knows what am I talking about.

We thanked this blogsphere that brought us here and established this virtual friendship. We went thru the down side of life and we encouraged each other during that time.

Now we encourage each other to stand up and face our life again without looking back.

We ought to face it ourselves and stand up. No other people could help us but ourselves.

Are you ready now, Little Inbox?

Sichuan Earthquake

It has been 13 days after the Sichuan 7.9 magnitude earthquake. Everyday, papers are still showing its progress how to save those survivors, what’s the death toll like, and etc.

I supposed many had blogged about it and update its progress, so that reader could have some first hand information.

I would be the odd one out, cuz, I dare not look at the papers, nor the internet to know how things going, not even watch TV to find out more. Cuz, my heart was sad and depressed as I see many children were live buried under those rubbles.

Whenever I received email that widely speculating in the cyberworld, I see children whom are survived without parents, or some survived without children. I honestly couldn’t stop my tears from rolling down.

It was just so pain and sad to see this happens.

I spotted one from today’s paper (after so many days of ignorant), a father squad down and asked himself, how come our houses could stand still without falling despite from this earthquake but the schools are all collapsed?

Reason is because the local developer did not use the right specification to build the school, which what we call it build without following the specs. They were supposed to use the stronger, broader, and compact beam but they used the others instead.

I asked myself when they started to build the buildings, do they ever thought of anything may happen? Especially this is an earthquake epicentre.

Are these people only think of MONEY without considering other’s people lives & deaths? Don’t they?

** To know about Sichuan Earthquake update, pls refer to this link –
http://sichuanearthquake.org.uk/

Mother's Love

Since 21 March incident, I’ve not been working at night especially after a hectic working day. I’ve not been involving anything particularly stress and pressure.

A way it’s good for me, as I was under tremendous stress before therefore I was not able to conceive. Not because of infertility or something else.

Friends that around me had advised me to try again, and don’t look back. Just look forward and have a healthy baby.

I have been a coffee lover, chilli lover, and even ice lover… because I want a healthy baby and want a healthy pregnancy, I basically quit all these.

Is this what people called it a Mother’s Love?

Karma 因果報應

When things burst out yesterday, everybody was trying to persuade me to forgive and forget.

Why? Cuz, they know I’ll dig as much as I can and many more they don’t even expect I could remember and I could know.

Well, my husband’s brother, so called, my brother-in-law kept saying this is my karma… and this is the cause and effect. I was so mad at that time, cuz, he is not in any good position to tell me karma.

What does karma means, based on Answers.com, it means “The total effect of a person's actions and conduct during the successive phases of the person's existence, regarded as determining the person's destiny.”

He himself had done many things that harm his own spouse and even hurt his spouse so much so that does it means this is his wife’s karma, cause and effect?

Honestly, his wife had done a daughter-in-law’s duty so much so, yet she was not appreciated and was blamed to create a ‘mis-understanding’ that causes the domestic violence at home.

Well is this what we call karma?? Nobody has doubt on this word – karma.

What you need to do right now in this life is to carry on all the good things and deed, all the rightful deed. Karma will reincarnate in the next life. This is many Buddhist believes.

One said nobody is perfect in the world, well, that’s fine and that’s true as well. Then why the innocent party is getting all these damages, and blames for nothing of which the innocent party has carried the rightful duty?

I know husband and myself is very disappointed and hurt over the damages that these people had done to us, particularly me. I have been admiring people have a harmony life where in law could get along so well.

Is this what you call Karma??

Mother-in-Law

Mother In Law – with this title there are many to talk about. Good and bad! Ups and downs! Kind and cruel! Thoughtful and selfish! And many more…

I supposed a thoughtful mother-in-law will create the harmony in the family and the family tie as well. If one is not that thoughtful and understanding, perhaps, the family tie is rather weak.

I personally experience this and though I post it out, and I know many will ask you to forgive and forget. But how many could do it, when the damage has already done?

It’s always say easy then done! No doubt about this statement.

When a person creates the ‘mis-understanding’ among each children and each of them will have the doubtful in them, I supposed there’s no closeness among the siblings.

I truly understand the kids will believe what their mother said, cuz, this is their mother. And, of course, they will pin point on other party’s wrong doing. But, did anyone of them realize or even investigate who created the ‘mis-understanding’ when thing crops up?

I bet none of them did that. Thus, the innocent party will keep receiving the blames, and scolding, and everything bad. However, the mother will get all the credits.

One good example, if the children kept saying the parents are old, let them do what they like. Well, I have no question about this. BUT, if one parent is weak and advisable for not moving a lot, should they consider to advise the parents to stay put in one place instead of staying one night here and one night there?

This is what all manufacturers called it ‘preventive’.

This happened during Chinese New Year, when the mother fell down. Things happened in a way that the father wants to have breakfast in up town where else the parents are living in down town. Reason for the father to have breakfast in up town is because the father wants to see how things going in the daughter’s house, as the daughter was moving house at that time.

The mother was blaming father was not looking after her properly thus she fell down, thus, father was blaming mother for going up town for breakfast, thus she fell down. When this happened, the involved parties were pushing the blame here and there, and yet the children do not realize this could be minimized if they could minimize their movements.

Then after, the son gotta rush the mother to the emergency ward, and doctor advised to give her a jap that costs RM5k. Well, money isn’t any matter to us, cuz, this is mother. Mother injured, each of us will have to do our part. However, mind you, this happened few days before Chinese New Year. Everyone knows when comes to such festival, each family will have quite a sumptuous spendings. Well, the sons have no other choice but to give her the jab. And on top of that my husband gave her quite a bit amount of money for new year as well.

My heart sunken when my mother-in-law said the amount was too little for her. And that has created 1 ‘mis-understanding’ between the other siblings and my husband.

Other ‘mis-understanding’ was the recent case where we celebrated Mother’s Day. Her daughter accusing us for not visiting my mother-in-law and blaming us for not taking care of the mother and so on.

Of which, hubby went back and see his mother 2 weeks ago. And yet, his own mother did not defend her son, but allowing the daughter accusing the brother and blaming the brother for no reason.

That was hurt to me and my husband.

Other ‘mis-understanding’ are many years ago, which she always complained to the other children that I do not care for them. I was so hurt, cuz, among the daughters-in-law, I was the one that cooked for her when she was unwell and I was the one that invited her for lunch and dinner or even I cooked and invited them to my house for meal.

What I have today was all the ‘mis-understandings’ that I have, all the ‘damages’ that I have.

Like I say, don’t the children believe the mother and father blindly without studying the truth?

I have been having this ‘damage’ for 7 years. And it burst out yesterday.

American Idol

Coming Wednesday, 21 May 2008 will be American Idol Season 7 Grand Finale.
Who do you think will be crowning the American Idol title? David Cook or David Archuleta?

Like Ryan Seacrest says, it’s David vs David for this season.

Well, honestly I don’t have the interest of watching for this season, perhaps due to too many things happened during that time frame. I used to be the American Idol fan, I’ll watch from one season to another and never give up.

Many had said this season the contestants are much more talented compared to other seasons, which I don’t agree. I still find Melinda Doolittle is the best among them.

She could sing all type of songs and the way she sang really touches everybody’s heart and soul. A very good example would be ‘Home’ that she sang in week 1. It was a 25 seconds of standing ovation that she had received from the audiences and as well as Paula Abdul (one of the judges).

I was impressed that she could sing till made people cry and get goose bumps. I had both of that when she sang, perhaps am too sensitive or emotional. But, it really touches many people’s heart.

Tango

I have been fascinating by the moves of all ballroom dancing, especially Tango. It gives me a feeling of this dance is so sensual, and sexy. Though I did not go into much of its origin, but, at least I do know its part of International Ballroom Dancing one of the dance objects.



I started to like it moves when I first watch Al Pacino’s movie, ‘Scent of Woman’. There was a scene where he led a young lady to the dance floor and he guided her to tango. That was so fascinating!

I have wanted to learn, and I know it’s not that easy to pick up such skills. First you need to get a dancing partner whom you can really rely on and trust when comes to certain moves it fully rely on your partner. Beside the point, to find a dancing partner isn’t that easy either.



By looking at these clips, honestly, I have the urge of learning.



I was told Tango has many versions, some says it origins from Argentina. Whatever it is, Tango is one of the sexiest dance! Agree?

What a shocking news!

I am shock when I read this headline from the Star Online.

Shocked over hubby molesting own daughter

What kind of father is this??? How could a father could do such animal thing like that?? Doesn’t he has a father love for her own daughter?
Does he ever know this could actually gave the daughter the trauma or phobia when she grows up?

These people are lucky to have a daughter of their own and yet do not know how to appreciate and love.

For those that do not have any children of their own will feel the pain as what the kids felt.

I can never ever understand what kind of weirdo is this?? Their own child!!! With their flesh and blood!! [sigh]

The world is shaking!

Within couple of weeks, things happened in China and Myanmar. The death toll is increasing, and many that read the news, the hearts are sunken by these nature disaster.

If everyone does realize the all these do cause by the environmental issues, perhaps, we could eliminate or even reduce the cyclone speed.

Today, our company organized the fund raising for Myanmar as the Government only allow 2 NGOs to assist them. On the other hand I heard, this is actually control by the Government and many victims have not gotten their needy.

Read another news from Kwang Wah, a pregnant woman was stuck in the debris for more than 50 hours, and she’s also have the miscarriage symptoms before the earthquake was happened.

[sigh] my heart is so sad and I really don’t know how to write further on this anymore… just wish everyone lend your helping hand if you have spare money to these victims in Myanmar and China. Or you can even pray for them.

God bless!

Finally at ease

This morning received a call from the hospital and it's pertaining to the blood test result that I recently had.

The call came in was a surprised to me. Cuz, I was a bit worried that coming Friday would be the day for me to collect my report.

Am glad that the clinic assistant called me and informed me that the blood test result shows everything normal, which means I do not have lupus decease in my body. Cuz, with that, I will not be able to conceive.

Now I am at ease. Truly at ease.

May 13th

May 13th is a memorable day for many people. The day where Malaysia had its first races disagreements, and I believe many Malaysians will never forget that day. Well, so do I and my family.

This day means a lot to me and to my family cuz this day was my beloved grandmother death anniversary.

An old lady whom can truly understand many of ours problems, difficulties, everything in life… and could also giving lots of advices and guidance regardless, work related, life related, even medical related.

A woman like her, I could say, no one could replace her.

I remembered when I was extremely down and sad, apart from husband and parents’ support. I wish she’s there for me and help me to walk thru what I have been facing. Whether it’s medical point of view or religion point of view… she could give me the advices for not letting down ourselves, and be strong and firm. She would be the one that helping me to stand up on my own.

I know am not the only one that misses her so much, that even goes down to her grandchildren’s husbands, or even fiancé, her sons-in-law, her daughter-in-law, relatives, etc

Though she left us for 3 years, but these 3 years are isn’t long or short, but I could still remember her smile, the way she talks, the way she laughs, and the way she busy buying 4 digits.

She’s such a wonder old woman, that no one could resist that’s her wonderful character & personality.

She went through the anguish world war, and even went through the ups and downs of a rich man’s family, a loss of her husband in her young age. But all these, will not demolish her firm perception in her life. She up hold a very strong vision, that is to keep everyone in the family close and good.

I love her and I miss her so much!!

Happy Mother's Day

Wishing every mother in the world, a Happy Mother's Day!!

My Mother's Day Thought

I would have been a mother if things didn’t happen.
But I know I should not look back and think about it anymore.

What had passed is past.
I should live my life more meaningful and prepare for the 2nd happy moment in live.

I actually feel a bit awkward when I see people received a stalk of carnation and everyone wishing every mother a Happy Mother’s Day. But, I guess I know, I’ll receive mine soon.

Happy Mother’s Day!!

Hurt

I’m so hurt
To think that you are lie to me
I’m hurt
Way down deep inside of me
You said your love was true
And we’ve never, never part
Now you want some one new
And it breaks my heart

I’m hurt
Much more than you ever know
I’m so hurt
Because I still love you so
But even though you hurt me
Like nobody else who ever do
I will never ever hurt you

I’m so hurt
Much more than you ever know
I’m so hurt
Because I still love you so
But even though you hurt me
Like nobody else who ever do
I will never ever hurt you

It was my first time to hear this song, and it was sung by Bobby Vinton. If you are born in the 50s or the 60s, you wouldn’t find Bobby Vinton a stranger too. He’s the person that sings Blue on Blue, Mr Lonely, Blue Velvet, I Love How You Love Me, etc.

Why am I so into oldies? Perhaps it was influence by my aunts, uncle and parents. But don’t you realize these songs have their special meaning??

When I heard this, the lyrics sound so familiar… cuz, this happens in the real world of ours. We are hurt, because you want some one new and it breaks our hearts.

And this happens to my beloved aunt whom I’ve blogged about it before.

Apart from giving whatever support we could, what else could I do to help my aunt??

Am I ready?

Today I realize when I go for shopping, whether is window shopping or running any errands, I actually avoiding the baby’s section where you could see baby cot, baby milk bottle, baby’s food, baby’s attires, etc.

It’s now passed a month plus of 21 March, and I have also had my 1st menstrual too. Should I consider having another one? Or should I continue to mourn over the loss of our beloved one?

Many had advised me to move forward, look forward to have another one…

Am just asking myself; am I too fast for that? Or am finding excuse not to have one?

An 'Oldie' Weekend

What do you do on Sunday normally?
I know many youngsters will perhaps meet up some friends for coffee. Some will take their notebook and surf in Coffee Bean, Starbucks and enjoy the free aircond, cuz, lately the weather is killing us. Or you’re like me, staying at home do nothing, but to listen to oldies?

I was being influence by aunts, uncle and parents in this… what they listened those days are my favourites. People like The Platters, Bobby Vinton, Johnny Mathis, Nat King Cole, Perry Como, Dean Martin, Elvis Presley, and to the later like Bee Gees, Tom Jones, The Beatles, Kenny Rogers, Anne Murray etc.

I don’t know about others, but all these oldies do bring back lots of sweet memories. Though I don’t born in that era, but those songs are sweet and pleasant.

At least you know ‘Sway’ that recently sung by Michael Buble is actually originated by Dean Martin.

Here is a the song that end my weekend here and tomorrow will be a hectic working day for everyone.

Where to go for a short break?

May 1st – Labour Day.

Since today falls on a weekday Thursday, it does look like a weekend to many of us here at home. The time is moving so slow, I could finish all house work within 1st half of the day.

Hubby had promised to take me for a short trip… am thinking where should I go. I will not be going back to Pangkor Laut Resort which reminds me of many things that related to the loss.

Hubby wants to go to Maldive so much, but it does costs a lot. And, we have other commitment ahead of us. Though I know his sweet thought meant good, he just want to take me out for a short break and let me forget what had happened.

Tanjong Jara in Dungun Terengganu is also another place to visit. It has high regards from lots of tourism societies. It is also belongs to YTL Group, so, I believe its decoration, building, interior and even service would be similar to Pangkor Laut Resort. Will that reminds me of Pangkor Laut?

Westin Resort & Spa in Langkawi Island is also another place that I would love to visit. But the price is really giving me a heart attack.

I’ve been to Langkawi twice already, and none of those visits were luxury or on vacation. So, if I revisit Langkawi again, this would be rest and relax vacation.

WMW blogged about Avillion Port Dickson, and that actually interests me. Can anyone tells me where should I go for my short break?

I need a place where it’s quiet, I could hear seashore sound, I could feel some sea breeze, etc.